tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2130015252771499630.post9160334476591422200..comments2023-06-17T07:14:35.091-06:00Comments on Random Thoughts of Uncommon Sense: Why Miscarriage MattersCindy Stagghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00301247691982745047noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2130015252771499630.post-77091628452451202652015-04-09T11:16:17.534-06:002015-04-09T11:16:17.534-06:00Gosh. That does sound awful. How about for every...Gosh. That does sound awful. How about for every comment you leave on a personal blog, insisting that the author agree with you or shut up, you write an equally vehement letter to your government, demanding that it fix the broken system? Abortion can't be the only answer. (I realize this may come across as very idealistic and terribly naive...)marcellinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2130015252771499630.post-8443996178428238732015-04-03T01:12:57.696-06:002015-04-03T01:12:57.696-06:00I am not sure what country you are from but here i...I am not sure what country you are from but here in the UK children's services are over populated. Children in care are more at risk from crime and poverty. There is also a huge controversy at the moment regarding children's services and pedophile rings. Of course there are some wonderful stories of children being born and then adopted into lovely wholesome families. From my research that isn't necessarily the norm. Those children seem to be the lucky ones. Our entire social services is under staffed, under paid and the stories that come out of this system would turn anyone cold. Up until (IIRC) as late as the 80's my country shipped thousands of children off to Australia to only be enslaved and abused. The whole thing was completely covered up. Please believe me that I didn't make a flippant decision, that it was agonising and it took a real long time to make. I honestly do regret getting myself into that position but I in no way regret the choice I made. I feel grateful to have had that choice. I honestly and truly believe that my country is better off without a child in its system (where who knows what could become of it) and a single mother on benefits (meaning my child would also be at risk of crime and poverty). I think the imagine that every child is wonderfully adopted into beautiful homes with loving parents is very idealistic and terribly naive. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2130015252771499630.post-65060311230619408152015-04-01T18:11:55.242-06:002015-04-01T18:11:55.242-06:00Cindy is being gracious in her response. "I ...Cindy is being gracious in her response. "I can tell you now that that baby and myself are a lot better off that it doesn't exist." It may be true that you are "a lot better off," but that isn't necessarily true for that "baby." I have so many dear friends who are vibrant, contributing, and compassionate human beings who were adopted as infants. Please, do not assert that they would've been better off not existing. The world is incredibly blessed by their very existence. marcellinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2130015252771499630.post-65566550497401391812015-03-29T08:31:50.990-06:002015-03-29T08:31:50.990-06:00Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for sharing your story. Cindy Stagghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301247691982745047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2130015252771499630.post-38906674367492475762015-03-28T10:03:07.931-06:002015-03-28T10:03:07.931-06:00As someone who is pregnant right now and has had a...As someone who is pregnant right now and has had an abortion in the past I can really tell you exactly how it feels to be on both sides of the story (for me). My first pregnancy was a shock, I was young and stupid and had no desire or resources (emotionally, financially...) to be a responsible parent. I can tell you now that that baby and myself are a lot better off that it doesn't exist. Now I am 5 months pregnant. A pregnancy that has been very much planned with a man I very much love and oh - how I love this little person growing inside me. If anything were to happen to him/her I would be distraught... Heartbroken. I would grieve in a way I could honestly say I didn't for my first pregnancy. So what's the difference? What makes one my baby and the other not... It's precisely my intention. That's why it's so difficult to make black and white laws - because intentions are what murk the waters between life and fetus. An unwanted child of rape? A life or a fetus? To the woman who has to live with the horrific ordeal of having her body and choices taken from her? A fetus... And I support that. I support choice. The life inside me now is my baby because I've MADE it my baby... I've pushed that intention on those tiny little toes and soft cheeks. <br />So please know I hold your hand when you think of those babies you've loved and lost but I also hold the hand of the woman making an incredibly difficult decision. You've said yourself that this debate isn't black and white and you're right - so don't try and make it by saying "my miscarriage makes abortion murder" because that's not fair to other women who've suffered differently from you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com